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Roundtable #51: Does It Get Easier?

Earlier this month I was at a workshop with other open adoption participants (first parents, adoptive parents, and waiting adoptive parents). Part of the speaker’s talk focused on maintaining an open-hearted attitude even when interactions or circumstances make us angry/sad/fearful/etc. Some folks expressed very real fears and hurts they have had to push through in their commitments to open adoption–something those in the room agreed was not always an easy experience, but always worth it. Toward the end of the evening a woman in the front row raised her hand. “Does it ever get easier?” she asked.

I didn’t know any of this woman’s story beyond the fact that she is an adoptive parent. But her question took me right back to points in my own experience, particularly in the early years, when the emotions of navigating first family relationships and confronting my insecurities as an adoptive parent felt overwhelming. And it sparked an interesting conversation in the workshop that I thought would be worth having here in our virtual space, as well.

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Roundtable #50: Open Adoption and School

Whether you have children in your home or not, it is hard to miss the fact that it is back-to-school time.  School brings with it a whole host  of things which can be made more complex when adoption is involved, from family tree assignments to meeting new teachers to simple milestones like sharing of first-day-of-school photos.  How has adoption come to the forefront for you when it comes to school?

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Roundtable #49: Your Father

Father’s Day is this weekend in many places and–as we did in 2009 and 2012–I thought we spend a roundtable focusing on dads. As always,  feel free to adapt the prompt to fit your personal situation, whether that means interpreting “your father” as one of your fathers, a father figure, or something else altogether.

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