Earlier this month I was at a workshop with other open adoption participants (first parents, adoptive parents, and waiting adoptive parents). Part of the speaker’s talk focused on maintaining an open-hearted attitude even when interactions or circumstances make us angry/sad/fearful/etc. Some folks expressed very real fears and hurts they have had to push through in their commitments to open adoption–something those in the room agreed was not always an easy experience, but always worth it. Toward the end of the evening a woman in the front row raised her hand. “Does it ever get easier?” she asked.
I didn’t know any of this woman’s story beyond the fact that she is an adoptive parent. But her question took me right back to points in my own experience, particularly in the early years, when the emotions of navigating first family relationships and confronting my insecurities as an adoptive parent felt overwhelming. And it sparked an interesting conversation in the workshop that I thought would be worth having here in our virtual space, as well.
How would you answer? Does it get easier?