Best of Open Adoption Blogs 2013

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The Best of Open Adoption Blogs list celebrates the best of online writing about openness in adoption from 2013, as selected by the blogging community. Bloggers could contribute posts they wrote as well as posts written by others. Submissions will be added to the list through January 31, so if your favorite post isn’t listed, be sure to submit it.

The submissions are listed in the order in which they were received–no “best of the best” or rankings here.

Section I: Recognizing Our Own Writing

What We Want.. by Katie of Until Forever…

Dear Precious Little One by Krista of Life On the Gravelly Road

The Moment I Became a “Real” Mom by Lori Holden of

Balancing Open Adoptions for Kids who Suffered Early Childhood Trauma by Bessy of Living a RAD Life

Open Adoptions in Foster Care by Bessy of Young, Single, and Adopting

Why Communication Is So Important by Cat of Cat’s Litterbox

4 Important Lessons I’ve Learned as an Adoptive Mom by Barbara Herel of Improv Mom

What’s in a Name? by Jennifer Charette of Charette and Sons

Borrowed Strength by Ames Markel of Full Circle

What I Wish I’d Known … in the Beginning by Northern Star of Constant in the Darkness

Children Adopted Internationally Do Have Birth Parents by Robyn C of The Chittister Family

The Social Stigma of Adoption by Feit Can Write of Feit Can Write

Your Words Matter by Amber of Bumber’s Bumblings

What Does Openness Mean to Me? by Maggie Terryn of Pink Shoes

Section II: Recognizing Great Writing by Others

What It’s Really Like to Have Family Pictures Made by Megan of Millions of Miles
Writes Katie, “Megan is one of my favorite bloggers. She is so honest about family life, and she is absolutely hilarious. I love this post because it’s almost exactly the way family photos go for our family – and we don’t even have children yet!”

In Celebration of International Breastfeeding Week: An Adoptive Mom’s Tale by Rachel Garlinghouse of White Sugar, Brown Sugar
Submitted by Krista

Visit Backlash in Open Adoptions by Rebecca Hawkes at Adoption Voices Magazine
Writes Lori, “While I think it’s important that we explore the benefits of open adoption, I think it’s also valuable to not gloss over some of the difficulties that can come from contact. Rebecca shares how she deals with some tougher stuff, and what keeps her from throwing up her hands and saying, ‘That’s it — no more contact! It’s too hard!’ʺ

Open Adoption by Instant Mama in Adoption of From Instant to Forever
Submitted by Bessy

Healing is Healing by Danielle of Another Version of Mother
Submitted by Bessy

First Hair Cut by Adri of Finding a Family
Writes Cat,”I enjoyed reading about them taking their son for his first hair cut.”

The Adoptee Voice: Solidarity vs. Conformity by Laura Dennis of The Adoptable (Adopted) Expat Mommy
Writes Barbara, “Because my young daughter was adopted domestically (we have an on-going open relationship with her birth family). And whatever her feelings may be at any given time, I want her voice to be valued and met with respect and support, especially within the adoptive community.”

Family Motto: More Love is More Love by Sara Werthan Buttenweiser at Brain, Child Magazine
Submitted by Jennifer

Adoption is Not Easy by Shelli Collins of We Love St. Patrick’s Day
Writes Ames, “I chose this post (and blog) because it gives a glimpse into a piece of why those who adopt seek out birth parents like me. I’ll never know what it’s like to be unable to have a child of my own, and facing one’s own perceived shortcomings is never is easy. Understanding other perspectives is essential in adoption no matter what role you play!”

OART #47 — Openness Changes by Seriously?! of Seriously?!
Writes Northern Star, “This post is so honest and reflective … Seriously?! wears her heart on her sleeve in this one and discusses how hard open adoption really can be sometimes … how the lives of the adoptive and birth families get entwined and how this can bring both joyful moments and heartwrenching, difficult ones too.”

Being the ‘Other Mother’ (sort of) by Liz of Poemfish
Writes Sharon, “I loved the way this post talked about the intersection of being a queer family and an adoptive family. It also helped me clarify the seeming contradiction between having to convince myself and my friends that our biological families are not that important and being totally sure that my child’s biological family is super important.”

OAB Roundtable: Open Adoption and School by Momo of Momosapien
Writes Kim, “This post was part of the OAB roundtable project. It hit home with me as she talks about the openness a teacher shows by acknowledging her child’s family members. She writes with raw emotion and authenticity. I love all of her writing – but this is one of my favorites.”

My #1 Secret Tip for a Successful Open Adoption by Dawn Davenport of Creating a Family
Writes Robyn, “I see so many PAPs and APs on forums asking, ‘My child’s birth parent did this. Should I close the adoption?’ This post by Dawn Davenport at Creating a Family is one I’ve quoted numerous times. It is wonderful advice.”

Two Years Ago — The Email That Made Us a Family by Wymsel of Wonderment, etc.
Writes Feit Can Write, “While there were many, many to choose from there are two main reasons I picked this one: 1) I’m a sucker for match and gotcha stories, and 2) her oldest son is *almost* as adorably cute as my son – which is saying quite a bit. Even though this blogger’s sons were adopted internationally, and (to my knowledge) her adoptions are not open, she absolutely gets adoption (and all of the love and loss surrounding it) on a level that I do not see very often.”

What to Expect When You’re Expecting [Through Adoption] by Shelley Russell of This Family’s Journey
Writes Lindee, “The post offers ideas for how family, friends and readers know how to support families that choose adoption. It is candid and honest–which, as a reader, I appreciate.”

What Does Openness Mean to Me? by Maggie of Pink Shoes
Writes Amber, “Love the whole post, but the last sentence is awesome. ‘I don’t think I’ll ever get to the period in my definition of what openness means to me. It will be the biggest and best run-on sentence of my life.’ʺ

The One Time They Asked Us to Tone Down Our Open Adoption by Amber of Bumber’s Bumblings
Writes Maggie, “I chose it because prospective adoptive parents and prospective birth parents need to know how incredible an open adoption can be. How when everyone who loves a child works together for that child’s well-being the most beautiful relationship can form and re-define antiquated thoughts on adoption and adoptive parents and especially birth parents. This post heralds one of the best open-adoption relationships I’ve ever been privy to and it should be held up as an excellent example of open adoption at its very best.”

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