I don’t have TV. Not in that “I’m too good for TV and obviously better than everyone who watches TV” kind of way. In an “I’m poor and paying for TV seems like an extravagance when I can pay about 8-bucks a month to stream movies and shows and watch other things online for free.” However, not having TV means that I tend to avoid my favorite social networking sites on the days my favorite shows air. This isn’t a new skill for me as I’m also a West coaster and wrong coasters tend to like live tweeting shows three hours before best coasters can see them. (I think it’s to make themselves feel better for living on the wrong coast.)
The drawback to this type of lifestyle is that when I finally do see an episode it’s already old news in the twitterverse. Recently I was watching the season finale of “Top Chef ” when, instead of getting to drool over yummy food I’ll never be able to make or even taste, I was hearing and seeing an adoption story. It wasn’t poorly done or sensationalized, but there it was. Adoption in my cooking program. One of the finalists was adopted and said that if she wins she hopes to use the money to visit the country in which she was born. Later in the program there was an interview with each finalists’ family and part of me wonders if they purposefully put the adoption bit toward the start so that viewers wouldn’t be *shocked* to see her family is White while she is Korean.
I was reminded that adoption is everywhere. I don’t know if it’s always been everywhere and I’m just more attuned to it now and notice it more, or if it really is increasing. It wasn’t triggering for me in this context, but it could have been for others. In the past I’ve spoken with other who are adoption-involved about an adoption rating system or warning, like exists for other content. Instead of MA for Mature Audiences, how about AC for Adoption Content. SAC for Stereotypical Adoption Content. AJ for Adoption Jackassery.
While I know the ratings/warnings will never come to fruition, I am very glad when I see discussion of these things in our community. A tweet about a book having adoption themes. A Facebook conversation about a certain movie and if it might trigger someone’s children. A blog post about how adoption is portrayed in a certain film. This is just one reason our online community is so vital. Calling up a best friend and saying, “Hey, do you think last night’s episode will trigger me/my child,” is only so helpful, especially if you don’t have adoption-involved people in your offline life.
Enough of my rambling, I want to see our community in action. In the comments let me and everyone else know where we can find the warnings we sometimes need.
About the author:
Kat Cooley, MSW is a social worker providing comprehensive all options counseling to those experiencing unplanned pregnancy. She is also a birth mom over a decade into an open adoption. She writes here at Open Adoption Bloggers generally on the first and third Monday of the month however was slacking this month as she was slightly distracted by her engagement. She is always open to new open adoption topics to explore; you can leave them in the comments, at the OAB Facebook page, or tweet her @KMCooleyMSW.
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