The Open Adoption Roundtable is a series of occasional writing prompts about open adoption. It’s designed to showcase of the diversity of thought and experience in the open adoption community. You don’t need to be listed at Open Adoption Bloggers to participate or even be in a traditional open adoption. If you’re thinking about openness in adoption, you have a place at the table. The prompts are meant to be starting points–please feel free to adapt or expand on them.
Write a response at your blog–linking back here so your readers can browse other participating blogs–and link to your post in the comments here. Using a previously published post is fine; I’d appreciate it if you’d add a link back to the roundtable. If you don’t blog, you can always leave your thoughts directly in the comments.
I’m still thinking quite a bit about memories and the different ways we preserve them for the generations following us. I thought we’d try a memory-oriented prompt for this round. Feel free to interpret “first meeting” and make a connection to your adoption experience however you’d like.
Write about a first meeting.
The responses, so far:
M de P (adoptive mom) @ Reservado Para Futura Mama on meeting her daughter’s first mother.
Kelly (adoptive mom) @ From empty womb to overflowing heart on seeing her daughter for the first time–in a Starbucks.
KatjaMichelle (first mom) @ Therapy Is Expensive talks about the phone call with a prospective adoptive mother that lasted for hours.
Spyderkl (adoptive mom) @ Evil Mommy on her “amazing and terrifying” first meeting with her daughter.
Michelle (prospective adoptive mom) @ Michelle & Amber’s Open Adoption Blog describes the intense emotions before their first face-to-face meeting with expectant parents considering adoption.
Amy (prospective adoptive mom) @ Jim and Amy Hoping to Adopt on their first meeting with their adoption agency.
Luna (adoptive mom) @ Life From Here shares about the powerful meeting with her daughter’s first mom.
Cindy (first mom) shares in the comments about the small gesture of kindness she remembers from her first meeting with her son’s adoptive parents.
Barb (first mom) @ Sideshow Barb looks back at herself on the day she met her son’s adoptive parents.
Jenna (first mom) @ The Chronicles of Munchkinland on the moment before everything changed.
AmFam (adoptive mom) @ American Family on meeting her daughter’s family in China.
Harriet Glynn (adoptive mom) @ See Theo Run remembers the intensity of the day they met their son.
Sheeps Eating Me (adoptive mom) on their first days with their son and the excellent bit of advice they received about open adoption.
Racilous (first mom) @ Adoption In the City on the shifts that occurred at the first meeting with her son’s adoptive parents after placement.
Cat (adoptive mom) @ Cat’s Litterbox on meeting with her son’s extended first family after what had been an emotional interaction for her.
Lia (first mom) @ Lia–Not Juno on the very first minutes with her son.
Susiebook (first mom) @ Endure for the Night on the first post-placement visit with her son and his adoptive moms.
Ashley (first mom) in a guest post @ Bumber’s Bumblings about her first meeting with the couple she would ultimately choose to be her son’s adoptive parents.
Meghann (adoptive mom) @ Everyday Miracles on seeing her daughter together with her birth mom and her baby brother for the first time.
Anotherversionofmother (first mom) @ Another Version of Mother recalls the first meeting with the social worker who would play an integral part in her son’s adoption.