The Open Adoption Roundtable is a series of occasional writing prompts about open adoption. It’s designed to showcase of the diversity of thought and experience in the open adoption community. You don’t need to be listed at Open Adoption Bloggers to participate or even be in a traditional open adoption. If you’re thinking about openness in adoption, you have a place at the table. The prompts are meant to be starting points–please feel free to adapt or expand on them.
Publish your response–linking back here so your readers can browse other participating blogs–and leave a link to your post in the comments. Using a previously published post is perfectly fine; I’d appreciate it if you’d add a link back to the roundtable. If you don’t blog, you can always leave your thoughts directly in the comments.
Anyone who reads my personal blog regularly probably saw this prompt coming. Recent comments and emails tell me you all have a lot to say on the topic. I’ll leave the prompt nice and broad, so each of us can focus on the sliver most on our minds at the moment.
Write about siblings and open adoption.
Anonymous (first mom) writes in the comments about the complicated emotions brought up for her by her son’s relationship with his brother on his first dad’s side.
Amber (adoptive mom) at Life in the Last Frontier talks about the resistance they’re facing from friends and family who don’t understand why maintaining sibling relationships is important to them.
Jess (adoptive mom) at The Problem With Hope shares how the strong relationship with her daughter’s bio brother influenced the course of their family planning.
Jenna (first mom) at The Chronicles of Munchkin Land points out that her commitment to openness is as much for her (parented) sons as it is for her (placed) daughter.
Susiebook (first mom) at Endure for a Night remembers a year-ago conversation about siblings with her son’s adoptive mom, and compares that to the reality during her current pregnancy.
A Life Being Lived (first mom) at Carrying a Cat by the Tail talks about how her daughter’s potential adoptive brothers played into her decision to place and facing her fear that she won’t have more children.
Rredhead (adoptive mom) at Adoption.com questions the conventional wisdom about explaining placement to her young son, given that he has older and younger siblings parented by his first mom.
Kelly L (adoptive mom) at Surprised by Hope shares why her daughter’s birth siblings are called simply brothers and sisters in their home.
Tammy (adoptive mom) at I Can Only Imagine shares how her children’s relationships with their siblings are a “painful thing although with great potential to be something marvelous and nurturing with time.”
Sonya (adoptive mom) at The Dobbins Boys tells how the, “You have siblings,” conversation came about with her adopted son.
Spyderkl (adoptive mom) at Evil Mommy thinks about the possible day her daughter’s first mom has another child.
Katjamichelle (first mom) at Therapy Is Expensive wonders what the relationship will look like between her placed son’s adoptive brother and her future parented children.
An anonymous adoptive parent shares about her son’s anger that is sometimes brought to the surface by the presence of his biological siblings–and how the strength of those same relationships provides an safe outlet for the emotion.
Tracy (adoptive parent) at My Minivan Rocks says that her adopted son’s siblings have become the doorway to open adoption, now that contact with his first mom is off the table for a time.
Amber (adoptive parent) at Bumber’s Bumblings shares about her family’s relationship with a different sort of sibling: her son’s first mom’s sisters, now doting aunts.
Michelle (adoptive parent) at Grown in My Heart says it was the siblings interactions were the catalyst for the family’s whole open adoption relationship to expand and flourish.